a mutual "time out"


Wednesday night, I realized that I forgot to complete an assignment given to me by Mr Right. I was getting the bed ready for the night when he asked if I had gone into the bathroom after court and twisted my nipples until they were hard and sensitive. I had a great day in court, and it completely slipped my mind. I was so upset that I forgot Mr Right's instructions, and he was disappointed as well.

so, I was put in "time out" because, mentally, I don't handle punishment spankings well. Five minutes I was sitting on the couch, in the dark, instructed to think about how I could better remember his instructions in the future. While I was sitting there, I realized I would have preferred the spanking. *smiles*

little did I know that while I was sitting on the couch in the dark, Mr Right was giving himself a "time out" as well. He was lying in the dark, on his bed, thinking of ways to he can ensure that I follow his instructions. Because he knows I'm very busy, and I would never forget an order or instruction intentionally, he thought of ways that HE, as the Dominant and Leader, could help me stay focused on him, on me, and, most importantly, on us.

He came to get me, and to bring me to his bed, and into his arms. He explained how this was a mutual "time out" as he explained that he has a responsibility to help me remember these things, as he knows how busy my work life is, and how easy it is to forget such things when I've been in court, and am ethically bound by my law license to be focused on what is best for my clients. So, he will use our private blog to remind me of those instructions until they become habit, much like my thinking of him and us for five minutes every other hour throughout my day.

I was blown away by his insight, his understanding, and his commitment to us. He doesn't want me to fail, or to struggle, or to become frustrated, when it comes to my thoughts about him, and about us. He WANTS me to be happy.

He may like playing with me, and watching my struggle against the spankings, or tease me until I laugh when we talk of politics, and our differing opinions of the world at large. but, all in all, he WANTS me to be happy, to smile when I think of him and us, to grin foolishly when I remember our intimate moments, to lick my lips in wicked anticipation when I recall his lips on mine, and his hand upon my red and sore behind after a most delicious spanking.

So, I completed all of his instructions on Thursday in a timely manner. I am a very happy, and satisfied woman, well-balanced with the knowledge of how blessed I am to have found a man who clearly understands, respects, and accepts his responsibility as my Dominant and Owner.

God/dess I love this man. How did I ever get so lucky?!

5 Comments so far »

  1. by schiava , on September 11, 2009 at 9:56 AM

    It is wonderful when they reveal their thought processes to us isn't it?

    I tend to be very hard on myself when I disobey or fail to please - just as you seemed to feel for forgetting the task he set for you. But when I realize that my Master takes the opportunity when I disobey or fail to please, to think of his own responsibility to me, to make things not impossible or so difficult that I fail more than I succeed....it just blows me away.

    Your last few paragraphs resounded strongly within me, and I am glad to have found your blog. :)

  2. by mouse , on September 11, 2009 at 12:52 PM

    You guys are da bomb! You both have it so together! And I just feel the happiness when you write about him.

    (btw I agree corporal punishments are almost always easier to handle than when Omega tells me to be still--but I hate to admit it is normally much more effective)

    mouse

  3. by Florida Dom , on September 11, 2009 at 1:18 PM

    Cutesypah: As a lawyer, it's obvious you have a lot on your mind and it's easy to see how you would forget, but Mr. Right certainly is doing a good job of making sure that you follow His instructions in the future.

    You two really seem to meeting each other's needs and bringing out the best in each other. Continue to enjoy the journey.

    FD

  4. by spirited_one , on September 11, 2009 at 8:35 PM

    I don't really have much to say, but just wanted to mention that this made me smile... thanks for that! :-D

    ~spirited

  5. by oatmeal girl , on September 13, 2009 at 9:03 AM

    The really sever punishment that awaits me is for having completely forgotten to practice something the sadist had assigned me to work on every day. One of the first things he did in his rage was order me to set up a reminder system for myself, since getting the results from me hew ants is more important than having an opportunity to punish me.

    So now I have a system through Google calendars that send me reminders and has put my whole life more in order, since I have a really lousy memory these days. Like you, I really appreciated his confronting the problem beyond my failure and helping me to be better.

    I am ever so glad that you new relationship is working more like a partnership, even within the structure of D/s!

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